Let children have a “thank you” heart
10 Thanksgiving Days, 2009 Mother ‘s Day is specially planned. When parents give endless love to their children, but it is the children’s indifference and self, each parent will be surprised and chilled: who made the child changeInto this?
To love children is the instinct of every parent. To this end, parents are willing to do everything without asking for returns.
However, with the endless love given by parents, many children regard the intimate love of their parents as righteous, self-centered, not understanding, and even less grateful: When the mother accidentally falls to the ground, the childNot only didn’t care, but also laughed aside; when the mother was sick lying on the bed, the child complained that the mother didn’t take herself out to play . all kinds of indifference made people chill.
Why did you give love but did not receive love feedback?
It may be time for parents to reflect on themselves.
You have to pay attention to love, and “not asking for love” is not all good.
To love others from elementary school is a required course for children to grow up healthy and adapt to society. The premise of “love” is to have a grateful heart.
Therefore, teaching children to be grateful is also the only way for parents to “love”.
The first step to the path of gratitude is to develop the habit of gratitude. The education of gratitude habit is infiltrated into daily life.
Let your child be soaked in a gratitude environment since childhood and feel it.
Parents should start with themselves, make good demonstrations, and use all available opportunities to educate their children. For example, when moms help their dads, dads should say “Thank you” to moms.
“Mom accepted her father’s help, and she said,” Thank you. “When Dad gave the child a gift, he told him that the gift was from Dad. You should thank Dad; this book was from your brother and sister.Thank you brother and sister.
In this atmosphere, children are embarrassed and gradually accept this basic etiquette. They also learn to thank their parents and internalize gratitude into their personality.
The second step is to make full use of various festivals as a carrier of thanksgiving education.
For example, during the Spring Festival, teach the child to accept the gifts from his grandpa, grandma and other relatives with enthusiasm, and express gratitude. No matter how much the price is, returning to the home requires the child to take good care of it and learn to cherish the affection of others; Teacher’s Day, let the child personallyMake greeting cards and give them to teachers, expressing good wishes to teachers; Father and Mother’s Day, say a few words of gratitude to parents, not necessarily thank the parents for how much they have helped, but just express how much they feel in lifeLittle bits of happiness.
The third step is to let the child learn to give occasional “show weakness” and let the child do something for the parents.
For example, pretend not to get clothes, let the child help to get one or two; pretend to be tired, ask the child to pour a glass of water for parents . let the child learn to give, know that the giving and help of parents and others is a “benefit”,And not taken for granted or owed to him.
The fourth step is to “care about” the child’s giving. The child did not kiss the parents, did not share a good bite for the parents, and did not remember a small requirement of the parents. This is a small thing that the parents must “care about”.
Don’t make your child feel that his parents are asking him nothing, he doesn’t need to do anything for his parents.
But this does not mean that we should be as easy-going and generous as our children.
Otherwise, the child will feel that you want nothing from him and he doesn’t need to do anything for you.
Let your child understand that it is costly to ask for it, and you cannot ask for it unconditionally.
The fifth step is to let the child learn to be grateful in the comparison. Take the child to visit the orphanage or the disabled hospital. You can also encourage and organize the child to make friends with the children in poor areas.What will not be cherished changes the child’s indifference, which causes his compassion, blessing and gratitude.
The sixth step is to appreciate the child. Another important reason for the child is that when he did something good by accident, he did not do it because he was not proficient in the operation, or the thing was too small and he only got a “thank you” from the parents.
If a parent does something good, whether he does it actively or passively, or whether he does it satisfactorily, he can thank and praise him heartily, then the child will be greatly encouraged.
No matter what your child does for you, make your child feel that “thanks to my help, things will go so smoothly.”
Parents’ sincere affirmation is the motivation for children to care about others.
To cultivate children’s gratitude and sharing from an early age is not only a etiquette, but also a healthy mentality.
Parents’ love for their children is not one-way, but two-way interactive.
Being a child not only accepts love from parents, but also understands the feedback and reward of love.
Only when we learn to share and be grateful will we be able to get along and cooperate better with those around us in the school and society.